…but let’s not!
People compare themselves to others – women (in their thoughts) compare themselves to other women, their homes, their body size and shape, their husbands, their children, and so many other things. I am not a man, but men have told me that they, too, compare themselves to other men.
People compare their lives to others’ lives.
We can always compare ourselves to someone out there and feel better about ourselves. But we also often compare ourselves (or our husbands, our children, our situations in life) to others and feel worse about ourselves.
Stop for a minute!
God created us. God gave us this particular spouse, or this particular situation, or those particular children. Not feeling like your spouse, children, situation, or life is a gift right now? Let us re-think!
God created you. Whatever your parents planned or didn’t plan, you did not get created in spite of God. He is the Creator and Giver of life. You are God’s great idea! So is your spouse. So are each of your children. Each person has their own unique gifts and abilities. Look at creation: God likes variety! We are not all the same, nor should we be!
And if you know God, he is your loving, heavenly Father who causes all things to work together for good. Some (all?) of the hard things in our lives are there to train us, to help us to become more like Him! More love, more patience, more self-control, more forgiving, to increase our faith,…I could go on and on, but you get the idea.
And that comparing…that looking into the neighbour’s field where “the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence” – well each field does have brown patches as well as green. People don’t go out of their way to display those ugly brown patches, in fact people tend to do the opposite, but the most “perfect” looking individuals or families aren’t perfect and have their own trials or “brown patches”.
So although to compare is human, let’s stop. Let’s focus on following God and being faithful to whatever he has given us to do. Sure, let’s seek Him about the “brown patches” (problems) in our lives, but let’s thank him for all the green grass in our lives. and if you need help in seeing where that green grass is in your own pasture, ask Him.